Free Resource for Bonehead Husbands (like me)

Got a question for you:

Are you the man and husband you decided to be? Or did you get to this point in mostly on autopilot?

Seems like a strange question, but I have a good reason for asking you.

A buddy of mine is offering pre-release copies of his book, Husband on Purpose: Your 30 Day Action Plan to Become a Better Man and Build a Better Marriage, for free until the end of the month. If you aren’t the best husband you can be — but you’d like to be — I think you’ll want to get your hands on this book.

Husband on Purpose

I got to read an early version of the manuscript and I’ve gotta tell you: the message is phenomenal.  I don’t want to sound hypey, but I believe it could revolutionize a lot of marriages. It’s really helped me  get my head on straight — and I thought I was doing pretty well!

“Most of us get married on purpose…then we end up being a husband by accident.”

Conrad Deas (the author) is one of the most intelligent and passionate guys I know. In this book, he lays out specific action steps to help men, including the boneheaded among us, find out what their wives want and give it to them EXACTLY the way they want it.

Impossible? Conrad shares a simple way to cheat your way to success. (Actually, this IS impossible if you don’t cheat.)

I’d like to tell you the path to becoming a Husband on Purpose is easy. That would be dishonest. The road gets tough sometimes…but it’s not as tough as having a crappy marriage.

If you’re interested, you can get a free PDF copy at You will have to opt in with your email address, though.

Husband on Purpose has earned my highest recommendation.

P.S. If you know of any men who could use some advice on reading their wives minds, would you mind passing the link along to them? Don’t forget: the FREE pre-release copy will only be available until August 31st, 2015.

Progress doesn’t happen accidentally. Don’t settle for being less than a purposefully-growing husband.



In Pursuit of Elephants

Focus Business Growth

“The hunter in pursuit of an elephant does not stop to throw stones at birds.” ~ Ugandan proverb

The words rocked me when I read them for the first time. The weight of that truth. The multiple layers of application, personal and professional. The visual texture of the metaphor.

It’s amazing how much wisdom can be found on boxes of tea these days…

The ideas of purpose, focus and the proper use of time become increasingly important to me. There are so many demands on my time, energy and resources, it’s critical to figure out which are elephants and which are birds.

The cool (and simultaneously challenging) thing is, by and large, it’s up to you to decide which is which.

What are YOU pursuing?

One of the major components of the business growth model Michael Zipursky shared during last week’s training was defining who your ideal clients are. (FYI, you can see the replay of the 1-hour training here.)

Again, you get to pick who they are. You also get to decide, to a degree that would astonish many people, HOW you will work with them.

I don’t necessarily mean big-money clients when I say “elephants,” although there’s nothing wrong with that. I mean whatever is meaningful to you. Here’s the catch: most of us never define what’s important to us. We kind of just drift through life. Maybe we pat ourselves on the back when we avail ourselves of opportunities as they pass. But how many of those opportunities are “birds” that happen to land in our paths?

What’s important in your life? In your business? Pursue it like a hungry cheetah chases it’s next meal. Ignore as many insignificant things as possible. They’re wasting huge chunks of your time (aka your life)!

That means you have to figure out what your purpose is and focus on it.

A Stimulating Conversation with a From-Scratch Millionaire

Quick story.

On Monday, I had the chance to sit down and chat with one of my clients. His life is one of those true rags-to-riches tales. He showed me a YouTube video of his oldest son, who has also become a millionaire, giving a presentation at a major event.

I (strategically) asked what he attributed his son’s success to. He boiled it down to 3 main factors:

  1. Intelligence
  2. Insane work ethic
  3. Fearlessness

Both my client and his son have earned millions of dollars by choosing their elephants, expending massive amounts of energy pursuing them (working smart AND hard) and ignoring the insidious feeling of fear that would tell them to chase something smaller, less dangerous and easier to catch.

Sounds like good advice.



Big Ideas that Impacted Me in 2012

Happy New Year!

I’m pretty sure most of you will not be reading this newsletter in December, but for the record, it’s still 2012 here in Chicago as I’m typing. I really didn’t mean to wait until the last minute to get in touch with you this month, but this month has been crazy busy.

For this final communication of the year, I wanted to talk briefly about 2 ideas that had a major impact on my thinking over the past months. Maybe they’re not new to you, but I think they’re worth rehashing.

Let’s go!

The Necessity of (Servant) Leadership

People generally don’t like to be told what to do. But, people need leadership. They crave it.

Leaders create a vision for the future. They inspire others and give them courage to move forward. They know (or at least seem to know) just a little more than the rest of us and provide lantern-light so we can follow their path.

You have to start thinking about your business in terms of leadership. We’ve talked about becoming an authority in your field and demonstrating your expertise. Leadership goes one step further. Your customers and prospects are looking for someone to help them do what they already want to do. The person or business which can eliminate the risk they’re facing, help them make tough decisions with confidence and show them the best path they can take to get to get what they want in life will gain unconquerable loyalty from those whom they serve.

The kind of leadership I’m talking about is based on just that: serving people. You’re leading them because you care. Leading because you can honestly help them achieve something great. Believe it or not, making their best interests your priority will pay off for you. As the late Zig Ziglar said, “You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”

“Didn’t Come Here to Read”

Rumor has it that during the World Series in 1957, Yogi Berra, catcher for the New York Yankees, was trying to distract Hank Aaron during a crucial at-bat. Well, Tony Evans tells the story better than me. Check out this 1-minute video –>

You have to know what you’re here for. What’s your purpose? Who is the audience you’re called to lead and serve? That’s really where business success starts.

If there’s any area I’ve struggled with this year, it’s right here. Knowing and being consistent with my “why” has been a challenge I need to tackle better in the new year.

Thanks for spending 2012 with me. I would love to hear from you, and I’d love to connect with you on social media.


As always, feel free to let me know if there’s anything I can do for you.