Why You Should Stop Thinking Big

One of the major reasons we don’t get the results we want in life is because we’re thinking too big.

We want more than we can have. We want to do more than we can accomplish. If we’d start thinking smaller, we’d be much happier.

This may not seem like a marketing concept, but let’s explore this concept for a few minutes to see what kind of business wisdom we can pull out of it.

Trying to Make Everyone Your Customer

There aren’t a whole lot of product categories in which everyone can be your customer. Most companies are not General Mills or Fruit of the Loom. Services like people like plumbers or tax preparers have a wider potential customer base. But even in those cases, discriminating against some customer types is almost always beneficial for your business.

In order to market your business to everyone, your message has to be somewhat generic, which invariably lowers its persuasiveness. On the other hand, picking a segment of the population and designing campaigns specifically for them allows you to be much more relevant and compelling, which drives better results.

On top of that, even if you could sell to everyone, some people simply aren’t the kind of customers you want to do business with. Others are the kind of people who are a joy to work with and serve.

Think about this: Red Bull could probably sell energy drinks to most American adults and teenagers (since most of us feel short on energy at least occasionally). But do they make generic ads? To they try to appeal to every possible personality type? Not at all. They sponsor extreme sports and appeal to the risk taker.

That doesn’t keep Suzy Homemaker from sneaking one while the kids are at school every once in a while.

One more thing. Generic products very rarely generate strong loyalty or enthusiasm around a brand. Contrast that with how people feel about Harley-Davidson or Apple.

So, even if you could potentially market your product to everyone, it’s pretty much guaranteed that you’ll get better results if you pick a core audience and really go after them. Other people will probably still come along. Nike promotes their product to athletes and those who’d like to be athletes. But people from every walk of life (forgive the pun) buy their shoes and other products.

Trying to Cover Too Many Bases

In baseball, the catcher covers home plate and the area around it. He rarely plays in other parts of the field. Imagine the chaos if he tried!

Let’s take one of my famous extreme illustrations. Imagine meeting two lawyers for the first time. They hand you their business cards; one says “Attorney-at-Law” and the other says “Attorney/Pastry Chef/Accupuncturist.” Which one are you going to take more seriously?

The natural reaction is to believe that the 100% lawyer is more qualified than one who is 33% lawyer, 33% chef and 33% accupuncturist. Who knows which one is really better. But the guy who can’t seem to decide what he wants to be when he grows up would be a less attractive choice for most of us.

It’s better for you to be world-class at just one thing than to have decent skills in five different areas.

Here’s a humorous-but-not-hypothetical example. It’s a real connection request I received on LinkedIn:

It’s going to be difficult for me to trust a financial advisor who’s also a busboy at Red Lobster.

Maybe it’d be different if he were the manager…

Know your strengths and maximize them. Market them. Know what customers appreciate and benefit from most. Concentrate on those few things.

We get it. There are so many wonderful things about your business and your product. But if you try to talk about all of them, you can over-stuff your message, making it difficult for your audience to swallow.

Stop thinking so big! Pick one thing and become the best practitioner and best marketer of it.

Other “Big Thinking” Problems

** You can get into trouble by trying to appeal to too many emotions in your sales message. It’s usually better to focus your message. I know, you don’t want to leave out anything that night entice someone to buy from you. But you may very well be sabotaging yourself. Rather than touching on every possible way the prospect could feel about the benefits of your service, consider drilling deeply into one feeling (or at least just one at a time).

** Trying to make “big money” on your first interaction with a customer is often the wrong attitude. This is one of the reasons people in sales and marketing have bad reputations.

If we’re so concerned about making a sale today and extracting as much cash from their pockets as possible without regard to his long-term well-being, we may be doing more harm than good. In most cases, we’re hurting our own long-term well-being in so doing.

** Trying to get large quantities of customers may or may not be the right way to structure your business, even if they’re all ideal customers. It may be better to think bigger about the value you can provide a smaller number of clients. Instead of constantly chasing more clients, it’s more profitable and usually easier to get additional sales from your existing customers.

When Thinking Big Is Good

1) Thinking about how to provide the biggest possible value to your customers. As much as possible, you should try to change their lives for the better.

2) Turn your interactions with clients into big, memorable experiences.

3) What can you do for your customers that no one else can or will do? What’s the most powerful transformation you can affect in their lives? Make sure to communicate those big promises.

Date Your Leads, Marry Your Customers

In October of 2001, the prettiest girl on my college campus, a popular upperclassman, agreed to go on a date with me, a nerdy freshman.

That following February, she agreed to marry me.

Yes, it was quick and this sort of relationship often crumbles as quickly as it starts. But after 12 years of marriage, I still tell everyone that taking my wife “off the market” was one of the smartest decisions I’ve ever made.

The things that made the wooing process so fast and the ensuing relationship so successful work equally well in my approach to attracting leads and winning customers (taking them “off the market”): singularity of focus, clarity of purpose, selfless commitment to providing value, trustworthiness and reliability.

The Dating Game

When I was 19-years old, I was different than most of my peers. I wasn’t in a rush to jump the broom, but I wasn’t interested in casual dating, either. I was going to treat my girlfriend as my potential future wife. Never did I imagine my life would change so rapidly, but the point is clear: if you’re serious about who you date and why, you’ll move towards wedding bells quicker than those who are “playing the field.”

You have to know who you want as potential customers and why. You wouldn’t just date anyone, and you don’t want just anyone as your customer. Who is your target market? What kind of prospect is a good fit for you and your business?

Read the rest of this article in the February issue of Evolution Magazine, (it’s the Guest Editorial on page 9).

 

(The Beat Goliath System is my prescribed strategy for attracting date-worthy leads and turning them into wife-able customers and clients. Find out more by entering your name and email address in the box to the right. )

How to Be Assertive Without Making People Run at the Sight of You

We all know one of them.

You know who I’m talking about. The “my way of the highway,” Type A personality. The ones who always seems to get his way, whether or not the people around him feel like cooperating.

We label this kind of character “assertive.” He knows what he wants and he’s not afraid to ask or even demand for it. He can be difficult to be around at times, partly because we’re secretly jealous that we’re not more like him in some ways.

Godzilla was assertive. Joseph Stalin was assertive.

But you know who else could be categorized as assertive? Martin Luther King, Jr. Oprah Winfrey. Michael Jordan. They’re magnetic. They move masses and have a huge impact on the world around them.

Obviously, we want to be more like the latter group than the former. How do those of us who need a little more assertiveness move forward without stepping into Godzilla territory?

Note: reader Arthur R. asked me to tackle this question when I asked for suggestions on topics to cover at the beginning of January. Honestly, I’m glad he brought it up. I’m not the most assertive person — my natural disposition is quite the opposite. That’s how I was raised. Thinking about this piece has been helpful for me; I hope you get something out of it as well.

Why We’re Not Assertive and How to Change

I don’t think there’s any denying that personality traits like assertiveness or passiveness are largely grounded in 1) upbringing and 2) genetics. Some of us grew up watching our role models play professional doormats; others saw dominant examples. And there are innumerable stages in between complete passivity and steamrolling. How do we get around that now that we’re adults?

Let’s look at what assertiveness is at its core.

One definition of assertive is “confident and direct in claiming one’s rights.” This gives us a big hint at the actions steps we can take to tweak our level of assertiveness.

In order to claim one’s rights, one must first know what those rights are. Then, one must firmly believe that they are intrinsic, inalienable rights — you deserve to experience and enjoy them.

My observations lead me to believe that most passive people are stuck at this point. Lack of confidence is a surface issue. The root of the problem is that they lack clarity and conviction; clarity about what they want and conviction that they deserve it as a God-given right.

Without clarity about their rights, how can anyone assert themselves? And if they “know” their rights but don’t believe they deserve them, why should they risk anything by taking initiative?

If Billy thinks no one cares about his ideas on how to improve sales, if he doesn’t believe he has a right to be heard, he’ll probably never lift his voice, even though he knows his ideas will work.

If Billy doesn’t believe he deserves clients who pay him $10,000 for his services, he’ll continue settling for ones who pay $500, even though he feels miserable doing so.

Clarity and conviction pave the way for confident action. When you get a clear vision of what you want and feel the conviction that you can have it (as Super Bowl champ Russell Wilson asked “Why not me?” The other guy isn’t more deserving than me) you can begin to assert yourself confidently. Or, you can start building confidence in your skills, knowledge and ability now that you’re free from the paralysis of ambiguity.

Miscellaneous Thoughts

Assertiveness is not inherently self-centered. Being passive can be every bit as egocentric as being assertive.

Not speaking up is not a virtue. Letting other people “win” is only a good thing to do with children. Passivity based on fear/self-preservation or some twisted sense of victimization or martyrdom (“Look at me, always taking one for the team. I’m such a nice guy!”) is nothing to brag about. And it’s still all about you.

Assertiveness can be used to benefit other people. I mentioned Dr. King earlier. He was assertive, but not for egotistical reasons.

Accepting low fees is not the only manifestation of a lack of assertiveness. Many times, we mask our insecurities by sticking nice-sounding names on them.

  • Relationship marketing, a.k.a. cowardice when it’s time to ask for the sale
  • Inbound marketing, a.k.a. taking 3 years to “build trust” when people may be ready to buy NOW
  • Artificially long sales cycles, the result of letting people stay leads too long. Putting a crazy marketing idea in place can fix that.

Your Action Steps

1) Take ownership of where you are now. Regardless of genetics and upbringing, it’s your responsibility to get where you want to be. You can overcome nature and nurture!

2) Get really clear about what you want in life, in business and/or in specific situations. That clarity is the first step to establishing the right kind of assertiveness.

3) Establish in your mind that you deserve to win. There’s no reason you should forfeit anything you want (as long as it’s moral, legal and scientifically possible).

4) Expand your confidence. Work for mastery in your chosen areas.

5) Attach yourself to something bigger than yourself. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, truthfully I think, that “The world makes way for the man who knows where he is going.” Don’t become self-absorbed with your growth and success. That’s what leadership is about.

6) Use your powers for good, as it were.

Have a productive week.

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I can’t help myself.

Over the past few months, I’ve been stealing quite a bit.

The guys who run the One Hour Startup have been creating so much great content, and rolling it out so masterfully, I haven’t been able to resist the urge to rip-off some of their ideas. John Breese and Ryan Healy are certified marketing geniuses.

For this weekend only, John and Ryan are leaving the door unlocked and asking people to steal from them. They’ve made their entire array of Kindle books (normally $10) FREE for decisive entrepreneurs and marketers.

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If your business can use some breakthrough ideas, it’s time to be decisive. I can’t recommend these resources strongly enough.

Head over to the One Hour Startup $10 Library page to take advantage of this steal of a deal (which they’re calling an “ethical bribe”) before you go to bed Sunday night.

P.S. Don’t forget to check out the Kindle contest OHS is holding. I don’t mean to spoil the surprise, but the winner will receive a rare copy of Ken McCarthy’s final System Seminar from 2011.